Women Orgasm - Not As Easy As It Seems In Porn Movies
It's all so easy in the porn movies. Women seem to reach orgasm at the drop of a belt buckle -- and it's so easy to tell when the male porn star has given a woman an orgasm. She cries and moans and bucks and whimpers until she is exhausted. Unfortunately for most men who learned their expectations of women's sexual responses from porn movies, that's not often the way it works for women in real life. If you want to give a woman an orgasm and leave her wanting more, it's important to understand how women achieve this and how they experience sexual pleasure.
First, stop thinking you are GIVING her an orgasm.
This isn't something you do to a woman -- it's a physical response to a whole range of factors. Some of those factors are emotional, some are psychological and some are physical. Just like she doesn't GIVE you an orgasm, you are not solely responsible for hers either. Reaching that particular desired stage in sexual intercourse is a team effort, so the very first thing you need to do is...
Communicate. Communication is the key to women's orgasms.
There is no single tried and true method of giving a woman an "orgasm" because every woman's body is different. In truth, what works for one woman once may not work next time, especially if you're counting on physical techniques to do the trick. Instead, the most important thing that you can do to ensure that you satisfy your woman is to communicate with her.
Communication is more than "Do you like it when I touch you here?"
There’s more to communication than just talking about what your lover is feeling sexually. In fact, you should start communicating before you ever put a finger on her. Women often need to relax and feel safe before they can become aroused. They feel the pressure to be attractive and sexual much the same way that men feel the pressure to be virile and erect on demand. A woman who is worried that she won't be attractive enough for you, or that she'll do something to "turn you off" won"t be relaxed enough to really feel pleasure and arousal.
Learn about women's anatomy.
There are so many misconceptions about women's sexuality that many women don't even know what feels good and what will bring them to achieve orgasms. If that's the case, it may be up to you to know where to find your lover's clitoris and how to touch her G-spot. Knowing in the abstract isn't enough, though. Be sure that you pay attention to your lover's reactions so that you know what feels good and what doesn't. If you're paying attention, you'll find that even if she doesn't really know what will make her reach orgasm, her body will let you know loud and clear.